Be still, sad heart! and cease repining;
Behind the clouds is the sun still shining;
Thy fate is the common fate of all,
Into each life some rain must fall,
Some days must be dark and dreary.
From The Rainy Day by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow 1842
We took our kids on their third trip to our favorite island a year ago. It was truly heartbreaking for me. We stayed at the same condo we had stayed in only a year before and had had a great family vacation. It was so amazing that once we returned, I booked it all again for the following year. But this time, however, I was scared to death my husband was going to ask me for a divorce. We were visiting a local tourist spot and the children had moved several tables away and into the sun to be warmer while eating their lunch. My husband then proceeded to tell me that he would keep me around because the kids would be better off with two parents, but that our marriage was over. I actually felt a wave of relief because I thought he was just going to tell me that he was filing for a divorce. My marriage was safe for now and my children would not have to go through their parents splitting up. I could breathe again. How had we gotten to this point?